Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Girls night out.

      So, over spring break I went to visit a friend of mine who goes to Mount Holyoke University, an all girls college out near Amherst, for a couple days. While there, I was probably one of the few non-professors on that gigantic campus with a 'Y' chromosome. It mad me feel out of place, being surrounded by women, like I was in the wrong by being here. This was really one of the only times I have ever experienced being a minority group, and I have to say I disliked it immensely. I started wondering if this is how women feel constantly in a male dominated atmosphere. This was also without anyone actually discriminating on me for being a male. I could not possibly imagine what it is like to be in a place, like in a male centered society, where one is actually discriminated against. It takes a lot to live with that, and to think that women have had to put up with this feeling, and in some cases still do! I imagine the same goes for African Americans, or Asian Americans, or anyone. One feels pressured naturally even if there is no active discrimination occurring. Although I cannot say I enjoyed this experience, I would say that it has influenced how I view other groups now.

2 comments:

  1. In short - yes! It's highly stressful to be the only person of your demographic (race, gender, sexual orientation, age, etc.) in a given space. But it's also an important and enlightening experience.

    Now imagine how you might react if someone had made a negative comment about your masculinity in this context.

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  2. Its an odd experience, no doubt. It may be helpful if more men were able to more regularly experience that feeling. It is understanding, after all, that breedeth empathy. The pressure absent active discrimination is immensely interesting. Even if men are being as open minded and egalitarian as possible it's disturbing to think that women will still feel pressured and stressed. It is not always possible to control the gender density of a particular group, so how are we to combat this?

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